Dear Ladies, Please Stop Trying to Lose Weight


I’d like to challenge you to STOP TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT.  That’s right, YOU HEARD ME.

Let go of all the diets, the weight loss pills, the Lap-Bands, etc.

Just stop it.

You’ve been through enough of this crap already–the constant pressure to fit a certain image sold to you by corporate America.  Don’t put yourself through it another day.

They’ve been pushing you to be skinny since you were a little girl, with their Barbie Doll propaganda.

And, the reason I challenge you to do so is that I, even though I am a man, an fed up for y’all feeling like you don’t have the right to accept yourselves as you are, all over a money-generating concept that doesn’t even matter, to begin with. 

It’s not about BEING SKINNY; it’s about BEING HEALTHY. Being healthy is what’s of true value in life. Being healthy should always be the goal over appearance.

A healthy woman, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, is what’s truly sexy and desirable, and–even though I know that achieving complete health in those areas is a huge challenge because of the stressful and hectic world we live in–this should be the level of health women–and men for that matter–should spend time pursuing.  This complete health is the type that glows and radiates out of you, through your eyes, teeth, skin, nails, and hair.

It has little to do with being skinny, being curvy and thick, or any body type.  Stop striving to fulfill these images that are shoved down your throat in virtually every form of entertainment. It’s deeper than appearance.

Putting the focus on being healthy is what will improve your sex drive.

It is what will promote your longevity so that you can actually live long enough to see your children get older and actually have an active life with your grandchildren.

A healthy woman is conscious of everything she puts in her body.  Because, of course, you are what you eat.  

She realizes her body is a sacred temple eats accordingly.

A healthy woman stays out dysfunctional, negative, and toxic relationships instead of stubbornly staying in one—therefore avoiding tons of unneeded emotional stress.

She gets ample amounts of sleep.

She stays healthy by letting her hair a look a little messy sometimes instead of putting a ton of chemicals on her head every day.

You won’t get healthy by STARVING yourself;  It’s about NOURISHING YOURSELF. I challenge you to stop putting so much emphasis on looking good and to put the emphasis back on FEELING GOOD.

Stop counting calories, and start counting nutrients.



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6 thoughts on “Dear Ladies, Please Stop Trying to Lose Weight

  1. Although I agree, for the most part, I still don’t believe a man should be suggesting to women what to do or not do with her body. But I applaud the approach to teach women to love themselves.


    1. K E Garland,

      I disagree with your disagreement. If a man has a daughter, or sister, or neice, or if it is someone he mentors, it is his bound duty to alert that woman of how Society is grooming and shaping her mind in a negative way. He cannot say that he sincerely cares about those women in his life if he does not. I do appreciate you taking time to read and to give your commentary. It is always welcomed.

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  2. What you are saying is true but it’s kind of like a catch 22 but that’s not the word I am looking for. I n being more health conscious or conscious about the things a woman or man eats, we naturally lose weight and form back to the weight that our bone structure was meant to hold. And that’s not me going against what you’re saying just emphasizing it. So even if a person did want to lose weight without all the pressure of what society says we should look like, being completely health conscious would make that an easy task or goal.

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