Most White People Have No True Black Friends

“Friends…As Whodini so eloquently asked, “How many of us have them?”

What does the term “friend” even mean really?  Well, according to Merriam-Webster: “a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.”

Now, notice–and this is the part of the definition I agree with–it says, “and with one whom has a bond of mutual affection.”

I don’t know about you, family, but to me, “mutual” means others equally advocate for and supporting each other’s interests.

If I may ask a basic question, what other groups have reciprocated the way we have tirelessly advocated and caped for their issues over our own?  

Systematic white supremacy has affected both black men and women equally.  So, when it comes to gender, there is no differentiation as to how this system has dominated, mistreated, and murdered us?  Where are the feminist groups when it comes to challenging and eradicating systematic white supremacy?   

The truth of the matter is, while living under the system of white supremacy, no white person can say they are truly friends with a black person unless they are willing to go to war with systematic racism/white supremacy itself.

Being friends with someone means you are willing to accept the reality of what that person’s reality is, no matter how uncomfortable it makes you feel in the process.

Plenty of white people support each other through cancer.  Would you support a black person in making sure they receive justice for their systematic mistreatment in America?

Plenty of white people support each other through infidelity and breakups.

Plenty of white people support each other through job-loss and even have the networks available to hook their white friends up with another job.

Plenty of white people won’t date nor be friends a black person because they don’t want to have to deal with the system of white supremacy that the black person they’re feeling has to live with every day of their lives.  They would much rather deal with someone they aren’t compatible with vs. having to deal with the black person they are compatible with, so they don’t have to deal with the baggage that comes with blackness. 

If you aren’t willing to expend every bit of you white privilege towards destroying white supremacy and towards making this society fair and just, then, you have no black friends, and you care zero about what their quality of life is.


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3 thoughts on “Most White People Have No True Black Friends

  1. And I would put it like this, “No Black person has ever had nor will ever have a true white friend.” First of all, we have nothing in common and we never will despite some whites attempting to get us to understand that we are all in the same boat. We are not all in the same boat because they are white and we are not and they never have been in the boat WITH us. They were in the boat against us; remember the slave ships and there were many of our people jumping into the ocean rather than put up with what they knew would continue and get worse. Never trust whites, and I do mean, never.

    Great post!

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    1. Shelby,

      Under this system, which has the entire deck stacked against us in every metric of society, the only sole thing and the ONLY that would classify a white person as a friend to anyone in black society is if they were willing to all wage war against the very system that harms every way which we live life.

      Unfortunately, good luck finding any white person that is willing to do that.

      It is still cool to do business with white people, if you can gain some type of tangible benefits out of the deal with which you can benefit your people. But, just because a white person gives you game, or if they party and drink with you, or if they even have sex with you DOES NOT DOEST DOES NOT mean they’re friends with you.

      The litmus test for friendship is and will always be, until this system crumbles, they have to be willing go to war with it. I’ve yet to meet a white willing to do that.

      Because, what the hell kind of friend doesn’t do everything within their power to oppose a system that literally protects and incentivizes genocide against you?

      I appreciate you taking the time to read and to provide us with your commentary, Shelby. It always encouraged and welcomed.

      One Love & One Justice,

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      1. I reblogged this and as usual, added my own commentary, but I must say, you are a hit on my blog! The views just keep on coming. You are very much underappreciated. But I do want you to know that you, in my opinion, deserve to win the highest awards in the field of writing, poetry, etc. I value your writing, your skill and your depth of knowledge. You are not ignorant to what is going down, that is for damn sure and that is why most times, I reblog your material because you mirror my thoughts and my take on so many issues, it ain’t even funny. I am now trying to find a way to post your comment to me on my blog because it deserves a wider audience, it is that powerful and right on point. Keep pounding them out and I will most assuredly reblog them!


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